Lolita 52 Week Questions 3 and 4 are back

 3.What my own Lolita lifestyle is like

I wear Lolita everyday.  It has been a lifestyle choice for me for many many years.  I like to wear lovely things and be a lovely person.  I enjoy pretty food and sweets.  I love GLB and music that makes me smile and feel pretty.  I believe its a lifestyle for me perhaps not for everyone but for me it is. Dressing pretty and doing fun girly things with my lolita friends


4. Favorite thing to put on my head

I definitely think I have a love for hairbows and skeleton hands.  These two things make me smile and no matter how bad my hair day is this fixes it right up.

The Tea Set I would love to have.

Words to live by

giant head eating bows are wonderous

Lolita 52 Week Post Question 5

 5. My wardrobe turnover

I actually don't have too much turnover.  I tend to reuse items in new ways or give them to a friend that it looks really lovely on.  I tend to add to my wardrobe and I prefer to used items for price and to make my own stuff too so I can dream it then have it.  Since I tend to favor the Gothic Lolita and Sweet is super popular I often get items from friends who are leaving Goth to go Sweet.  This is both awesome for me but also sad.  Sad because I like having friends who like the same things as me I have noticed there are very few Gothic Lolitas in my area but I did just meet another one so its looking up.

The Lolita 52 Question Challenge

So I have decided to take this on and post it to both my tumblr and my blog.  Every Friday of this year I will answer one of the questions on the list....So today I will answer two questions to get caught up.

Question 1.
5 pieces every lolita wardrobe should have regardless of style.
I think these are the 5 most important to me.
1. Petticoat
2. dress/or shirt and skirt
3. amazing socks
4. matching bag
5. fantastic hair accessory
****I need 6 choices I love and collect parasols people so I pretty much need one with every outfit.

Question 2
5 movies for lolitas
1. Kamikaze Girls
2. Marie Antoinette with Kirsten Dunse
3. Psycho Gothic Lolita
4. Mr Roccoco
5. Anime anything with lots of doll like characters

Okay so now I am caught up and will try to post every friday.

So I purchased these items from a lovely Etsy Seller called Rara’s Jewels.  I absolutely love them.  The bracelets (I got the set of 3 in pink, blue, and lavender) are light and you forget they are even on.  The ring wears very well its adjustable to fit most fingers and it is also very light so it does not weigh you down the way most jewelry does.  Now my all time favorite item is the lavender skully hand hairclips.  DELIGHTFUL!  They sit so nice and they don’t slip they are light but solid in weight so the stay all day.  All in all this is an amazing seller with fantastic products and I highly recommend.

Musings in my mind today

Sometimes I forget that I am engaged.  I forget that over a year ago the man I love decided he wanted to be with me forever.  We already live together like were married so I forget I am engaged.  I don't get giddy at bridal magazines or look around for the perfect colors.  I guess as time has passed we no longer follow the rules.  We don't date, fall in love, get engaged, marry then begin our lives.  These days we get together, live together, buy homes, kinda become engaged then as some point just get married.

I miss the traditions.  As open minded as I am I miss the romantic notion of having a celebrations to celebrate your love with all the people who matter to you.  To let them all know that I am choosing this person to spend my life with.

And yet I am happy in my life.

Its just sometimes I forget I am engaged.

Remembering back to my first moment of being a grown up.

Today I was reading a book titled Lets Bring Back ...it talks about all the things of a bygone era that are missing in our lives right now.  As I reached the M section there is sat on the page...Murphy Bed.  A reminder of my very first apartment away from home.  I was so young and in the daylight I looked at this little place with reverence.  Such freedom.  It had 13 windows in a half moon sorta way since this little studio was part of a old victorian that had been broken up into little living spaces. The closet was deep but only because it had a murphy bed that fell right out of it.  The claw foot tub was deep and lovely.  Now I say in daylight because its important to note that this place was so much more to my young eyes and the freedom it promised.  It was in a poor neighborhood frequented by working girls.  The hallways smelled old and musty.  Paint had been put on layer over layer never sanding down to start new.  As I moved in my Mother was slightly horrified their were roaches and the kitchen was in dyer need of appliances that were newer then the 1950s rejects provided.  The tile in the bathroom was irregular and missing in spots and the sinks undercarriage was fully exposed and rusty.  The vanity mirror was aged and pitted with one solitary bulb that wavered when too many things were plugged in at once.  What should have been carpet was so old and smashed to the floor it resembled a coffee colored felt.
     And yet...I loved it.  For the monthly cost of $230 a month it was Randy and I's first place.  I made little changes that seemed huge at the time.  A found half round table just small enough in the entry way.  Fresh paint in the kitchen with some pillowcases turned into curtains.  An old futon we used as a couch that I lovingly covered with a blanket to make it look more festive and my constant attempt to put fresh flowers in the house so it would feel and smell pretty inside.  I think back now to all the canned chili dinners with saltines and the endless amounts of kool aid we drank because it was all we could afford.  I fondly remember my first case of Oreos I had to have then ate till I was sick to death of them and did not touch one again for 3 years.  How living there was my way of being on my own only appreciating how my mother must have felt being a mother now.  How leaving me in that bug infested dirty environment at the end of moving day must have felt like for her.  Don't worry mom I was smiling and oblivious.

What I did get to do.

The few things I was able to do was attend the Lolita swap meet where I traded some old Kera mags for 2 rings some cupcake jewelry and some lovely head pieces. I even traded some shoes I had for some Blue ones with my pal Rebecca. I love the group pic its has Allison, Rebecca, Bellmouse, Bunnie, and Me. I met the designer of Chantilly and bought some of her awesome socks.

I took my pic with the famous Oogie Boogie and my love. All in all it was fun when I could get away from the work side of things.